I'm trying to get me a real woman to take out,
But for now, they're wild,
They rather get it in.
But for now, they're wild,
They rather get it in.
- Wale
Hmm, I'm really trying
to figure out an angle to go about this whole ordeal. Dating to me has never
really, how do I say this, fruitful. I know there's a whole process of dating
and that you should enjoy the company of other people and all of that other
jazz. But it's kind of like annoying these days. I haven't really been in the
dating scene really for about a good three and a half years. I went into a
relationship with my last ex without actually dating around because she was that
awesome. But now that I'm out of my funky little mood and ready to actually be
sociable with my female counterparts, I find that things have changed, a lot,
and not really for the best.
Now I do take into
account the demographics in which I'm trying to date, and I do take in the
geography as well, because that does matter. Also there are my current
situations that I have going on, which include but not limited to, school,
working a full time job, running a full time blog and trying to be around more
for my family and close friends. So with all of that taken into account, my time
is very limited, therefore it's very precious to me. So when someone comes along
and it doesn't work out for the simplest of reasons, it's not only annoying,
it's a bit draining. But that's the win/lose aspect of things when it comes to
dating, you never know what you're going to get it with it.
I'm always asked these
days’ two questions, one being why am I not married. This is usually the follow
up question to do I have any kids, a direct response to my answer for that
question. Now the both of those questions are a bit annoying because, well I
don't really like answering any questions about my life to people and I don't
really like having to explain myself in any facet of life for something that
deals with personal decisions that affect me and me only. But that's how life is
setup these days; people are nosey for no good reason. I know the difference
between genuine care and interest, and most of it isn't.
Now with all of that
being said, I am picky with whom I'm even attracted to. Most people think that
I'm like the average dude and like all women, or they think that since I'm 28
I'm some kind of man whore because I'm old with no family. Both of those could
be the furthest thing from the truth. The little known thing here is that I
already went through processes in life at an early age, and saw some pretty bad
results from people that do certain things in life that others would deem "just
a phase". I've never felt the need to go through those phases because I'm not
that kind of person. I've also dated a lot in my younger days and I know how
that lifestyle goes as well. In short, I know what's out there, and I know that
it's not for me, so I don't get pleasure in doing it.
The thing here is that
I went through a natural progression of life and I've matured into knowing what
I want in terms of dating and what I want to subjugate myself to. Most people,
for one reason or another, can't understand what I'm saying when I say that
because they haven't arrived at that point in life, and probably never will.
That's all fine and dandy because that's their life, but when it starts seeping
into my life what they think I should, is when I start feeling annoyed. Honestly
I don't want marriage or kid’s at this point in life, what I honestly want is
just to have fun with one woman who knows what she wants and has things going on
in her own life. I just want a woman who wants to have fun and wants to just
chill and do things just with me.
That's called a
relationship folks.
I realized that I've
always rushed into things and pushed the envelope on a lot of relationships
because I was either not happy with myself or I didn't know what I wanted out of
life at the moment. Those days of not knowing are pretty much over and I'm
moving on to the next step of life. Now am I sitting here saying that I will
never get married or not have kids, no I am not. I'm simply saying that at this
one moment in life I'm just looking to have fun and let something grow into
something more. I'm not into timetables and I'm not into living life how society
says I should live it. I'm in it for me and what I want to do.
Now when I get into a
relationship will I still am about me, of course I will be. That's the missing
element in all of this; it's what I want to do with my time and life. I always
over dedicated too much time to my relationships, and spent too much time
wrapped up in the other person. At this point if something works out, it works
out, if it doesn't, hey that's life, not going to beat myself up and jump off a
bridge. That's code for not wanting to rush into anything anymore, and as soon
as I decided that, I was being rushed into things too soon or not really much
effort was there. But hey, that's life, it's not meant to be balanced and it's
not meant to be easy.
This post was just
mainly about me wanting to semi vent about what's going on in my dating life and
how down it is at the moment, I know things will get better, just at the moment
I'm a bit frustrated and annoyed with what's going on lol. What are some things
that go on within dating that annoys you or wish would be different? Leave a
comment below in the comments section.
Until next time
guys.
